Sunday, October 10, 2010

Why International Dating is Not for Losers

From Ladislav, Chief Expat Advisor of HappierAbroad.com:

Are we who date abroad losers?

To those who consider us losers, here is our answer:
We have discovered that love and sex are commodities as any others and they both obey market trends and the laws of supply and demand. We treat male and female attractiveness only in marketing ways, as well.
In other words we export the attractiveness of the American male to global markets rather than depending on the domestic markets alone. If that is being a loser, than any export company that tries to find better markets for its products is a loser, too.
Global marketing is a respectable trend and international trade is a quadrillion dollar a year business. Can you imagine someone writing an email to a large global company with billions in sale around the world and saying something like this:
You loser, what's wrong with a good old American market? Why can't you find an American customer.
Worse yet: Hey what's wrong with American investors? Why sell out treasury bills to the Chinese and Saudis?
As it happens, an American Citizen man ( of any race, age and looks) is in greater demand in many countries than he is at home where he is surplus merchandise. So, we are here to market ourselves on the global scale.

An Army of a Million Bachelors

There is an army of one million single men in America now looking for girlfriends and wives while the women are having a ball.
About a decade ago, a Chinese government official warned that if the Chinese parents keep aborting female fetuses in favor of male ones, in one generation, there will be an army of one million bachelors roaming the countryside looking for wives.
While the Chinese authorities are rightfully concerned about the fact that one million Chinese young men won't be able to find life partners and create happy families in the future, virtually no one in America is talking about the already existing huge surplus of young men who have to compete for girlfriends and wives in the USA.
Numbers do not lie- have a look at statistics across the country and you will see that overall, young men outnumber young women by somewhere around 11:10. In some places it is 12:10 or more. Add to this the fact that Hollywood brainwashes young women that they deserve rich and handsome young husbands with big cars and great careers and houses, and the fact that 20% of sexy hunks with money and good looks get 80% of the women, and you have a recipe for a disaster for a simple young man who just wants a date. He can't get one because numbers and statistics are not in his favor. Social and demographic trends are not in his favor. The Puritanical culture of not talking to strangers is not in his favor. In other words, he is behind the eight ball when it comes to dating.
However, the above cold facts are not even an issue in today's America and are not known to the average Joe. He is told that he lacks social skills to pick up women, that he needs to get a better job and improve his appearance, lose weight and develop confidence, pump some iron, take a karate class, all the while American women who dress like janitors, who have bad manners and who are fat and ugly apparently have very little problem dating handsome young men. That is the result of the bad demographics in the USA.
The solution to the problem is simple- the surplus men many of whom are not in the most desirable category from the American woman's point of view, should go to places on Earth where there is a shortage of men and a surplus of women and where young women outnumber young men.
Try it and you will see what I mean. Go to two cities- Moscow and Manila. You will see more young women on the streets than young men. Always. And guess what else you will see- women try to look better, they behave in a sweeter manner, they try and be nice to guys because if they are not nice, another woman will whisk the guy away from her- guys are in demand.
You will see than instead of steely, supercilious looks that you get from women in the US, or, no looks at all, your appearance as a man on the streets of Moscow or Manila will attract curious, friendly and warm expression of interest from young ladies all over. They will be asking you questions, flirting with you, and saying yes to a dinner invitation.
So, why are they so nice? Because good men are hard to find there. The men can get a girlfriend any time they want, and at any age. They do not need to exercise, take classes in social skills, dress well or join clubs. And they are the ones who do the choosing.
In many countries where there is a shortage of men, women stay virginal before they get married because no decent guy would want to marry a "used" woman. Why get damaged goods if there is plenty of fresh, brand new stuff to go around? "You are not a virgin? Get away from me! I don't need you!" is the attitude of the men there.
Men walk proud and tall there, they do not sing whiny, sweet songs to women, women sing those to men and about men. It is a man's world out there and a man's market.
Do you want to be there? I bet you would.
Also, in their economies, women have small salaries and need men to help them survive and establish families. A guy with a good job or any guy who can afford a decent date is hard to find. In their country, there is an army of SEVERAL MILLION LONELY BACHELORETTES who cannot find a good boyfriend. Is that where YOU would like to be now? I bet it is!
So, the choice is yours: do you want to be a private soldier in the horny army of one million angry and frustrated bachelors in the USA who are fighting over a perennially small number of arrogant, capricious and self absorbed women and be chasing the will-o'the wisp that seems to always move away from you, or do you want to be surrounded by an army of a couple of million young bachelorettes? I bet that unless you are a glutton for punishment, you would choose the latter.
That is why you would be Happier Abroad."

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9 comments:

  1. hi you are soo right I just returned from my first trip to the Ukraine.. and while I am 61 years young I had the attention of much younger women immediately.

    I actually had to decline one woman who was 21 years old who wanted to come up to my hotel room and give me a massage (because that is her profession) because I had another date with a 30 year old..
    There were so many women vying for my attention that I was overwhelmed. And that I have a "disability too which even though I was up front about made no difference to them. unlike my attempts here with AMERICAN women who ask me about my disability which is not readily apparent.. I have a TBI and that I had a tracha tube damage my voice box.. which can be a challenge whenever I speak but not overseas in UKRAINE.. and that I have had much better luck with first generation foreign women here from places like UKRAINE, PHILIPPINES, anD LATAN AMERICA, too so all of my focus has now shifted to foreign women..

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  2. While I was traveling for a month in China according to the people I met there is an upcoming 30 MILLION surplus of Chinese men compared to women so will be traveling all over S.E Asia or possibly to overseas Chinese communities in over a 100 countries around the world. Your business like approach to mating and hooking up is applicable though it may seem a bit ice cold to the less than practical romantic notions attached to mating in the States.

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  3. I only wish that this subject could be discussed rationally, in this country, without
    the IMMEDIATE accusation that "nice guys" are
    not "good men" and that men feel "entititled"
    to female companionship. These attitudes are really off base, but we cannot say these things out loud without being called woman haters. It is really sad!

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  4. All of this is true. I used to be an especially handsome young man back in the 1980's. I had a living wage job as a janitor. That was all it took with these American women. Janitor equals loser. At the time the minimum was $40,000 a year for them to consider you. Today, it's $100,ooo a year! To the devil with them! I had good benefits as well, but I was'int !professional enough,not good enough. Also, I'm a"nice guy". Weak. "Nice guys finish last". Now I'm happily married to a Vietnamese woman, my wife is loving and kind. I'm also blessed with a beautiful daughter. I'd be alone at 53 with no one if I had not made the decision to marry my pen pal. In the same rotten situation, I'd do it all over again.

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  5. If dating and marrying a non western woman makes me a loser, then I'm proud to be a loser. Who really cares what American women think anyway.

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  7. Time for a reality Check.
    Perhaps underlying your supply-demand model you should address why it is that someone fails to find a date in America or any other country for that matter. It is simply because they’re inferior to the other suppliers our there –i.e. the other Single Men. From your model that would be attractiveness.
    But generally speaking it would include wealth, personality, intelligence, character, compatibility on top of physical attractiveness as these irrefutable traits I observe to be the fundamental underlying a relationship. If you disagree, feel free to share your thoughts.
    Now having established that, it can be assumed that there is excess supply of single men in America. Otherwise, none of you would be experiencing rejection. Now we address why it is you experience much greater success dating abroad.
    I propose two reasons. Firstly, there is less competition. Comparatively speaking, the single males in the countries you experience positive responses from have less males that possess the traits of wealth, personality, character etc. It would be naïve for me to neglect fundamental differences in culture that may elicit general differences in the populace and their social behavior. But factoring that in, if you are satisfied with what these women from other countries give you, that’s great. But that’s no reason to bash on countries where you have little success in due to your incompetence.
    Secondly, the women have lower expectations. This cannot be argued, as if they have higher expectations like the women in America and East Asian countries, then you too, would experience the cold shoulder given to you.
    Now your subjective claims of America being a cold, non-sociable bad place for dating and meeting strangers comes about because you simply do not measure up to the standards of the women.
    Yes, you have every right to criticize and call them shallow, materialistic, gold-digging etc.
    But that does not change the fact that you do not measure up to their standards. If you really don’t care and don’t want to deal with these women from America, Taiwan, Japan etc. then that’s fine. But it seems that you do care, otherwise you wouldn’t write this pathetic, bitter blog in order to gain some sort of acceptance and sympathy from others.

    I'd love to hear your response.

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  8. American women are fat, dude.

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