Nobody plans on their car's tire blowing out on the way to work or catching a cold. That's why spare tires, AAA, medicines and home remedies exist. The key is learning how to change a tire, signing up for AAA and actually calling them when you've got car trouble, getting plenty of rest and taking the proper nutrients. Don't like the city or town you're living in? Either work towards making changes to improve the community or take steps and set a date to move out. If you want to enter a certain career field, research it. Learn as much as you can about it from various sources to see if it is for you. If you are still enthusiastic about it, take steps to get yourself enrolled in classes or training courses. If it turns out later on that it isn't what you had thought or planned, or that the desire no longer resides in you, get out without making yourself suffer any further. Have a backup plan that you can fall back on, at least temporarily, while you go back to the drawing board and draw up a new set of plays.
From past experience, I can tell you that even something as exciting as a foreign woman you've been pen pals with for a while, coming to your country by her own accord and on her own dollar, needs a superb plan and a mighty backup plan. Don't try to be Mr. Hospitality by offering to be her guide or letting her stay at your bachelor pad, even if both of you are verified members on CouchSurfing. It's possible that her personality might be totally different from her letters and she might not be the best guest or roommate, or the two of you might not be compatible with each other. Instead have her come to your city to meet you, but offer recommendations on tourist attractions and accommodations; picking her up at the airport or train station should be the most you do for her initially. If sparks fly and the two of you end up having great chemistry, you can decide to cultivate a relationship if you wish.
Having a plan and a backup plan is crucial to your success and well-being. When something isn't working or is off, change the play and make the necessary switch to accomplish your goal. Have the necessary tools to get yourself out of a bad (play) situation. Having a set of plays and executing them is the difference between throwing an interception, fumbling the ball, muffing a punt, getting sacked, and scoring points. Having a set of plans is the difference between making something of yourself in life and going absolutely nowhere.
Have you ever been asked in a job interview, “Where do you see yourself in five years?” Have you ever given that any thought or been able to answer that question? If not, you need to start constructing a roadmap (or a playbook) to your desired destination. Metaphorically speaking, it should have main roads, back roads and detours. It is one thing to envision something for yourself, but a different thing for your actions supplementing your dreams.
In football, tossing a Hail Mary pass all the time, hoping something good comes out of it, is not a strategy. More has to be done by an individual than just being positive and hoping for good things to happen. Actions really do speak louder than words and having an action plan gives an individual a group direction, and works wonders. Sometimes we find ourselves in predicaments that seem demoralizing, leaving us on the sidelines, dejected on the bench. A good friend once told me that life is a lot like the "snowball" in that it can roll both ways, and when there is positive focus combined with positive actions or one victory at a time, the peaks and valleys in life become shorter and easier.